Blake Lively and Ryan Reynolds have proven time and time again that they are one of Hollywood’s top couples, thanks to their loved-up red carpet appearances and hilarious social media antics. They’ve also been known to share some super-relatable parenting qualms over the years and Reynolds’s latest word to the wise about raising four children is some pretty solid advice.

“I think it’s more about talking to them about everything,” Reynolds told People during the Bring Change to Mind Revels & Revelations 11 event, where he was honored with the Robin Williams’s Legacy of Laughter Award. “It’s genuine when I say I take a huge interest in their days and how things are going.”

The number one notion that Reynolds wants to instill in their four kids, James, Inez, Betty, and a baby they welcomed in February, is something we could all benefit from having: “self-awareness.”

“For me, the best time of my day is walking them to school and walking them back,” he continued.  “I think as parents, we are so much better equipped to handle the rigors of childhood through our kids now than when I was a kid. It’s just totally different now. People are much more self-aware. And that’s the thing we sort of hang our hat on the most is self-awareness with our kids. Not be happy, not be anything, just be self-aware and welcome everything in.”

Earlier this year, Lively also spoke about parenting with Forbes, saying that raising her kids has made her feel most like herself (talk about some self-awareness)

“I think having children for me made me feel so much more in my skin,” she said at the time. “I never felt more myself or at ease in my own body or more confident — not to say that there aren’t a bevy of insecurities coming at me a million times a day, but I just feel incredibly settled.”