So time to gather ’round and find out everything there is to know about these two, from how they likely met to how long they’ve apparently been together and *that* diamond “B” ring the singer just posted of herself. 👀 Let’s get into it, shall we?

Selena Gomez – InstagramBefore 2019

Benny becomes friends with Sel’s ex-boyfriend Justin Bieber in 2009—roughly a year before the singer and Disney Channel alum begin dating for the first time. The two also have a longstanding work relationship, as he produced her 2015 Revival songs “Same Old Love” and “Kill ’Em With Kindness,” in addition to her 2017 collaboration with Cashmere Cat, “Trust Nobody.”

March 2019

Sel and Benny release yet another collaboration, “I Can’t Get Enough,” with J Balvin and Tainy—aka *that* song whose music vid sees the producer wearing a teddy bear costume. Witness:

October 2020

Fans note that there might be some tension between Benny—who btw collaborated with Justin on his 2021 song “Lonely”—and Sel given the shade the producer seems to throw her way while promoting the single.

During an interview on the Zach Sang Show, Benny says, “Justin’s not one of those cookie-cutter pop artists. Like you know, they’re like, ‘this is my new single and here’s my makeup line.'”

Considering Sel had legit *just* launched her iconic Rare Beauty makeup line, fans take the remark as a diss. However, neither artist addresses the interview’s subsequent social media frenzy, soooooo it could all have just been transparent coincidence? Ooooor perhaps Benny privately apologized to her? Either way, things start to get real 👀 in…

August 2023

Selena releases her song “Single Soon”—a *chef’s kiss* banger, obvi—, which Benny produced.

And if that isn’t enough to keep Selinators beyond thrilled, at the end of the month, the singer also gives us a lil insight into the traits she’s looking for in a partner during a SiriusXM Hits 1 LA interview.

While discussing her “Single Soon” line about being “a little high-maintenance,” she dishes, “I think I have standards. And I think I live in a world right now where boys confuse standards with high-maintenance. It really isn’t [the same thing]. But the line was really fun because I’m not ashamed to say, ‘I actually require x, y, and z for you to be with me.’ So in a way, it was just meant to be for the attitude of the song. And that’s genuinely how I feel.”

The celeb then reveals the qualities she wants in a partner, saying, “I mean you gotta be cool, man. Not cool in the sense that people think you’re cool. You just gotta be nice and like, please make me laugh and also just be good to my family and people around you.” 🥺❤️

October 2023

No dating rumors just yet! Just Benny ~casually~ showing his support for Sel by attending her Rare Impact Fund Benefit event.

Stefanie Keenan – Getty ImagesStefanie Keenan – Getty Images

^ Benny placing a bid on tickets for Taylor Swift’s Eras Tour. No, literally lol.

November 2023

Oh, this? Nothing much, just Benny announcing the release of his cookbook…and Sel liking and commenting on the post, sparking dating rumors.

Plus, the singer also takes to her own Instagram to share the producer’s exciting news, calling him “one of my favs”:

November 26, 2023

A chatty source gives Entertainment Tonight a dating update on the actor, and reveals that she’s single: “Selena is casually dating and doing well…She is doing her own thing and doesn’t feel any sort of pressure to be in a relationship. She is just focusing on what’s best for her right now and has been very in tune with maintaining her own boundaries. Her friends and family support her and just want her to be happy.”

December 4, 2023

A Selena fan account posts a clip of the celeb in her Selena + Chef holiday special while she’s having a convo about her crush! The comment alongside the vid reads, “This episode was filmed months ago, so we hope things went well with Selena and her crush 😂❤️,” to which the Disney Channel alum cheekily responds, “😉.”

@Syrian_Selinator – Instagram

Well! Then!!!!

December 7, 2023

Selena likes the following two Instagram posts (!!) on the celebrity news fan account @popfaction—the first being a report about the rumors of her being in a relationship with Benny, and the second being a repeated roundup of clues signifying that the duo might be dating along with the headline “Selena Gomez Seemingly Confirms That She Is In A Relationship.” And, yes, she totally comments “facts” on the latter.

The singer then shares an Instagram Story of her seemingly with Blanco, which is a BIG FREAKIN’ DEAL:

Selena Gomez – Instagram

Oh, and she *also* responds to comments on PopFaction’s page and defends Benny being her boyfriend after people hit the comments section of the post with their ~thoughts~ on the sitch (including one person noting that Benny seemed to be “shading you years ago”).

Some of the 🥺 clapbacks she pens? “He is my absolute everything in my heart,” “Lol yeah and he’s still better than anyone I’ve ever been with. Facts,” and “I don’t understand. If you actually care about me. This is my happiest. If you don’t feel free to say whatever you want. But I will never allow your words to guide my life. Ever. I’m done. if you can’t accept me at my happiest then don’t be in [my] life at all.”

We also learn that these two have apparently been together for six (!!) months:

And in response to one commenter questioning her choice to date the producer, Selena writes, “Oh sweetheart, I’ve been in therapy since I was 18. I know what’s best for me and I will fight till I get what I deserve. I appreciate your misguided input, but I’m growing. Don’t feel free to grow with me, just know I’m not going to be with a f***boy ever again. Sorry to disappoint.”

Truer words!!!

Also December 7, 2023

Selena reveals that she’s taking a break from Instagram after being accused of “trolling.”

“Never trolling,” she replies. “I’m leaving Insta for a while until I have work again. I just stand up for what I believe in. I have no shame in doing that. I love my fans more than anything in the world.”

However, shortly after…

She posts this pic seemingly of her with a diamond “B” ring on her finger:

Selena Gomez – Instagram

And another one!!!!

Selena Gomez – Instagram

Plus, that same day, a source opens up to Entertainment Tonight and dishes the following on Sel and Benny’s rumored ‘ship:

“Selena and Benny have been casually seeing each other for a while and more recently, it became more official. Things have been going really well between them and Selena is happy. She thinks Benny is very funny and of course, extremely talented. Selena is in a great place in her life and feels content and relaxed. She is enjoying where things are going.”

In-ter-est-ing!!!

December 12, 2023

The singer shares a few more snaps that totally confirm her new ‘ship with Benny, including a selfie of her wearing *that* diamond “B” ring (which btw is designed by Jacquie Aiche!) on her finger and a pic of her snuggling up with the producer that kinda sorta makes our hearts melt. 🥺❤️

Selena Gomez – InstagramSelena Gomez – Instagram

With only his white top and beyond-recognizable curls showing, Benny’s upper body is hunched over as he hugs Sel, whose face is partially cropped in the pic. TBH, it’s fair to say that I definitely didn’t have this on my 2023 Bingo card, but I’m not not mad about it!

Aaaaand that’s pretty much all we know for now, but definitely check back in for any and all updates on these two!